How to Talk to Your Dentist or Orthodontist (When You’re Not Sure You Agree)

Advocating for your child’s health—without feeling dismissed, overwhelmed, or pressured

You’ve done your research. You’ve read the studies, the blogs, the stories. You’re starting to question the advice you’ve been given about your child’s teeth, jaw, or breathing.

But when you bring it up at your child’s next appointment? You’re met with resistance. Dismissal. Or worse—pressure to act fast.

Sound familiar?

Here’s how to confidently navigate these conversations so you can advocate for your child without the stress.

First, Know What You’re Really Asking For

You’re not trying to "go against" the dentist or orthodontist. You’re trying to get the full picture.

That means asking about:

• Airway development

• Tongue posture

• Breathing patterns

• Jaw growth

• Myofunctional function

• Long-term outcomes—not just straight teeth

These aren’t fringe concerns. They’re essential pieces of the puzzle that many traditional providers weren’t trained to prioritise.

How to Start the Conversation

1. Stay curious, not confrontational

   • Try: “I’ve been learning more about jaw and airway development, and I have a few questions…”

2. Bring research or resources

   • Mention The Mouth Myth or quote professionals like Dr. Shereen Lim or Dr. Theodore Belfor.

3. Ask open-ended questions

   • “Do you assess airway health as part of your evaluation?”

   • “What’s your approach to tongue posture and function?”

   • “Are there non-extraction options to make more room?”

4. Watch their reaction

   • Are they open? Curious? Or dismissive and rigid?

Red Flags to Watch For

• “Airway isn’t really something we focus on.”

• “There’s no reason to look at the tongue.”

• “Extractions are the only way to make room.”

• “We’ll fix that later—once the teeth come in.”

• “You’ve been reading too much on the internet.”

You deserve a provider who respects your instincts and is willing to collaborate.

What to Do If You’re Not Comfortable

• Get a second opinion from an airway-focused or holistic provider

• Delay treatment until you feel confident in the plan

• Use your voice—you know your child best

Want the Right Questions—Ready to Go?

The Mouth Myth includes:

• A list of red flags and green lights to look for

• Questions to ask at your next appointment

• How to spot airway-focused providers

• Bonus: The Ultimate Airway Health Checklist included free

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You don’t need to be an expert to ask better questions. You just need to know what to look for.